Love and other thoughts


When I was younger . . . much younger . . . I heard this religious message that stated love isn't an emotion, love is a decision.

I'm not above thinking along spiritual planes every now and then and at the time; my reaction was . . . What is he talking about???  What an idiot.  What does he mean love isn't an emotion? Just how crazy is that?

I am much older now with a lot more life experience and I realize that statement was completely right.

See, it all comes down to all of us are a bunch of animals.  We are hardwired to procreate.  Period.  So, it goes to reason that all of your life, you are going to be attracted to people.

That's not love . . . If it was, there would be no porn.  Love comes when you decide to make a hearth and home with someone whom not only are you attracted to, but you enjoy talking to on a daily basis.  That one you want to place before yourself, etc.

Love = loyalty in my humble opinion. There are not too terribly many people on this earth who have a hard time with the procreation aspect of it; it's all that confusing stuff . . . Life, careers, sometimes family, friends and even our own thought process at times which tend to bog down the equation.

Love can only grow in a safe environment, where both parties are free to be themselves, free of judgment.  That's what we are seeking when we seek love.  To have that one person . . . me and you against the world baby, sometimes you have it but for some reason things happen and both people move away from it.

There comes a point in every relationship where two individuals find themselves at a crossroads.  Which path to take . . . love is making the decision to take whatever path . . . together.

Being married is a lot of hard work, I'm here to testify. When it is going well who better to be an animal with, then someone who loves your animal side?
The flip side is making the decision to take separate paths . . . possibly the one less traveled.

Either way I think it better to experience love and lost than to never have tried.

Ice

Comments

Chatty Crone said…
Hmmm, not sure if I agree with everything here, some yes.

There is a book out by Merrick and Myers called Love is a Decision. I think it means like faith you might not always feel it - but you stick with it anyway.

Love is a hard thing. I don't think it's just about having children. It is so complicated.

I think it is about being a lifelong companion.

I agree with love = loyalty.

I agree that love needs a safe environment.

I just know love is complicated.
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