Tinnitus – Not the sounds of silence
Tinnitus – Not the sounds of silence
Tinnitus has been
a very noisy part of my life for over forty years – ever since the day I first
noticed the slight ringing in my ears.
At first you try not to notice the sounds within your head but over time
and depending on the day it may rage out of control. It didn’t happen in a split second but I
think over time. In the Army it was the
whining sound of my helicopter’s transmission above my head. You learn to fly in the right seat affecting
the hearing in your left ear then as aircraft commander you fly from the left
seat destroying your right ear’s hearing.
We wore helmets but it did not do an adequate job of total hearing protection
from the surrounding noises. I could
still hear bullets hitting the skin of my aircraft or the screams from
crewmembers or others wounded inside on the way back to the LZ. When I first noticed the sounds within my
head . . . I felt alone, very scared.
How could I
explain to anyone what was raging inside my head? I knew they couldn’t relate (how could they?)
to the sound of a whistling teakettle sometimes, or a jet engine at other
times. There were days when it was
faint; other days when it roared with a vengeance. When I was younger in the shower I thought it
was gone. But then once the shower was
done, the sound dominated again. After
the Army it remained with me and I discovered there was a name for this affliction
called “Tinnitus”. With my Southern pronunciation
was “Ti-nnit-us” but recently I saw a story and learned the correct way to say
it, “Tin-ni-tus”.
Where I am living
now I do not get live television but get recorded streaming news off the
internet and during the recent Las Vegas shootings I was searching for news of
what happened and came across a story on what I’ve had all these years.
I used to think my
experience was unique, but I was wrong. I
came to realize that lots of people live with tinnitus every day, and that
there are many ways to cope with it – and for some cope with it well. The harsh reality of tinnitus has
robbed silence from the lives of nearly 50 million Americans. Whether you hear it in your ears or in your
head tinnitus means the same thing: noise
that does not go away. You do not suffer
alone.
The first two
physicians I saw knew nothing about tinnitus and said nothing could be done
about it. Their only advice was, “Just
don’t listen to it.” When people think
of hearing loss and partial deafness, they immediately think about a quiet
world that they will be forced to live in. In some cases, that cannot be further from the
truth. The loss of hearing does not
equal a quiet day of fishing during our retirement years. It can be a screaming inside our heads that
never stops.
Early on I’m sure
it caused me problems in relationships, I didn’t sleep. I could not shut out the white noise in my
head so sleeping was low on my priority list averaging about an hour or two a
night in my twenties and thirties. Every
ten years it seems like I increased an hour now getting six to seven hours some
nights. My body seemed to function well
on about four hours for many years. For me,
the key was letting tinnitus become a part of my life. Many people have depression, eating issues, or
other ailments caused by the constant sounds.
Since the onset,
my tinnitus has varied a lot in tone and perceived volume. I always have a high-pitched hiss, although
it’s worse some days. I also
periodically get a low-pitched buzz accompanied by fullness ringing in my ear. There are hours when it suddenly turns into a
screaming siren, making it almost impossible to hear anything through my good
ear, let alone the bad one. The sound
can be so loud in my head that it’s almost physically painful. On days like that, I keep busy and tell myself
that better days will come. I remind
myself about the people who love me and the people whom I love. I can’t quit. I won’t quit. I’m not going to let my tinnitus defeat me. Living with tinnitus is not easy. You have to be a fighter. Eventually a better period comes again, and my
quality of life increases by so much that it’s hard to believe. But it does improve. I’ve been there several times. There has always been a light at the end of
this tunnel. I don’t always see it, but its
there, like the sun shining above the clouds.
To feel better, I have learned to focus on
what makes me feel good. I sure wish I
didn’t have tinnitus. But now that I know
what it is, I try to make the best of the situation. By reminding me about what is important in
life, the meaning of life becomes clearer. My interest in helping others is bigger than
ever. And, for me, family comes before
material things. What helps me make it
through rough days is thinking about the people who care about me and whom I
hold dear. Besides nurturing
relationships, my advice to others with tinnitus is to nurture your hobbies. Do you like writing? Write. Do
you enjoy taking photos? Take photos. Do you like bowling? Bowl. Do
you like making crafts? Make crafts. You get the idea. The better you feel in
general, the higher the quality of life you will have despite tinnitus. This is the time to pick up an old passion
that has been pushed aside for too long. Some days with tinnitus can be a struggle. Try to make it less hard by emphasizing the
good things in life.
I tell myself that
it’s only as loud as I perceive it to be. Changing the way I think about it is not always
easy to do, but it can work. When I hear
the noise, I say, “Okay, it’s here,” but then move on and listen for other
sounds in the environment that are special to me, such as music. When I concentrate on music, almost any kind,
the tinnitus is pushed to the background. When riding in an airplane or car, which I
find relaxing, I listen to CDs, the radio, my playlist and other cars passing
by. All of those sounds help cover (mask)
my tinnitus. Lately there are special
sounds – the chirping of birds or crickets – that helps me. I love to sit outside or have the windows open
in the summertime and let the bird sounds in the morning or the crickets in the
evening drown out the noise inside his head.
When I had my dog
Levi I discovered that when Levi crawled next to my bed, fell asleep, and began
to snore, his snoring was more welcome than the tinnitus. Levi became my masking device! It’s important that I continue to do what I
enjoy: going to the movies, concerts, and having dinner with friends. Many times during those outings it is hard for
me to hear normal conversations since the white noise in my head along with the
constant chatter noise in a restaurant or bar drown out anything I can hear so
usually I just nod or try to watch what someone is saying to maintain part of
the conversation. Working with tools and
machinery I make sure I use my earplugs for protection. For many years, I blamed myself for this
injury. I used to think that if I had
been more informed, more cautious, more observant, things would have turned out
differently. But I know there is no
blame. It just happened. I’ve forgiven myself, and I’ve moved on.
I’ve learned to
listen – really listen – to all the sounds that are out there. I appreciate more sounds now, like that of
falling rain on the tin roof where I live, of ocean waves crashing onto shore,
of my shower, and I long for my snoring dog Levi (sure do miss him). All of these sounds help me know that
tinnitus is just one sound. As annoying
as it can be, it is only one sound maybe two. Maybe one day you’ll discover your special
sound. Maybe it’s the sound of crickets
on a summer’s evening. Maybe that’ll be
the best sound you’ve ever heard. I know
I feel that way sometimes.
Like most things
in my life it always goes back to music to fill the void and noise between my
ears. Music it like that, it takes away
the pain and sends me to places I remember.
"Music makes pictures and often tells
stories
All of it magic and all of it true
and all of the pictures and all of the stories
All of the magic, the music is you".
All of it magic and all of it true
and all of the pictures and all of the stories
All of the magic, the music is you".
Ice
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